伊浚:
在洛阳郊外的净土寺里，有一位少年出家的小和尚。他学佛十分精进，干活亦十分勤奋。每天大清早就起来担水、打扫；做过早课后就去山后的市镇采购寺中一天所需的日常用品。回来后，还要按方丈的安排再干不少杂活，晚上还要读经到深夜；就这样，晨钟暮鼓中，十年过去了。
一位少妇到老中医那里求诊，她已经多日辗转无眠，茶饭不进，身体日渐消瘦……
小李在一家俱乐部里演奏爵士乐，收入虽然不高，但他总是乐呵呵的，对什么事都表现出乐观的态度。他常说：“太阳落山了，还会升起来；太阳升起来，也会落下去。世事无常，所以还是看开点好。”
俄罗斯原是一个欧洲的内陆国家。自第一代沙皇伊凡四世以来，历代沙皇都积极地向外侵略扩张，企图建立一个地跨欧亚的大帝国。
莫斯科公国不断兼并周围的公国。大公伊凡三世(1van III，1462—1505在位)靠馈赠金银等手段，得到蒙古统治者的重用。15世纪，钦察汗国分裂，伊凡三世乘机扩大领域；1480年，又迫使前来讨伐的钦察汗国军队退却，取得独立。他铲除不听命的贵族，集中军权，自称沙皇(Czar)，为专制制度奠定了基础。
13世纪初，蒙古帝国在亚洲东部兴起。它的西征，震惊了欧洲。俄罗斯亦处于蒙古人的统治下。后来，以莫斯科(Moscow)为中心的莫斯科公国日渐强大，并于1480年打败统治那里的蒙古人，摆脱了蒙古人的奴役。16世纪早期，以莫斯科公国为中心，形成了统一的俄罗斯。
有位教授正在准备他明天讲课的教材，可是他的小儿子却在一边吵闹不休，要爸爸带他出外玩。教授无可奈何，便随手拾起一本旧杂志，把杂志后面的一幅世界地图撕成碎片，丢在地上。然后，对儿子说：“如果你能拼好这张地图，我就带你出去玩。”
You must have heard stress contributes to 80% of major illness and is responsible for 75% to 90% of doctor’s visits. But that’s not stress; it’s distress. “Stress is the only anti aging agent we know of the exact opposite of what we think,” says psychologist James E. Loehr.
亲爱的婆婆：
Have you ever notice that lessons tend to repeat themselves? You may continually attract the same lesson into your life. You may also draw to your teachers to teach you that lesson until you get it right. You may try to avoid the situation, but they will eventually catch up with you. The only way you can free yourself of difficult patterns and issues you tend to repeat is by shifting your perspective so that you can recognize the patterns and learn the lessons that they offer. To face these challenges means you need to accept the fact that something within you keeps drawing you to the same kind of person or issue, though that situation or relationship may be very painful.
Should we easily wail about the embarrassment and the unfairness of life? Or should we accept obstacles as challenges? With a choice of stance we can allow ourselves to be oppressed victims. When anything happens to us, we can take it as a sign that we should not expect anything good out of our lives. These are times when we need to determine whether it is wisdom or fear that motivates us in our choices.
Dear Yi Jun,
The pencil maker took the pencil aside, just before putting him into the box.
To forgive may be divine, but no one ever said it was easy. When someone has deeply hurt you, such as your roommate at hostel or your classmate at RSMU, I believe it can be extremely difficult to let go of your grudge. But forgiveness is possible – and it can be surprisingly beneficial to your physical and mental health.
“Heaven helps those who help themselves” is the results of vast human experience. The spirit of self-help is the root of all genuine growth in the individual.
伊俊: 
Is there a “success personality” – some winning combination of qualities that leads almost inevitably to achievement? If so, exactly what is that secret success formula and can anyone develop it?
Communicating a sense of personal power comes from a belief that you can reach your goals in your own way. Powerful people empower others and encourage others to express themselves openly. You communicate a sense of personal power by developing these traits:
伊浚: 
Confidence is a feeling – an inner fire and an outer radiance, a basic satisfaction with what one is plus a reaching out to become more. Confidence is not something a few people are born with and others are not, for it is an acquired characteristic.
亲爱的姨姨：
The tides advance; the tides recede. Winter goes and summer comes. Summer wanes and the cold increases. The sun rises; the sun sets. The moon is full; the moon is black. The birds arrive; the birds depart. Flowers bloom; flowers fade. Seeds are sown; harvests are reaped. All nature is a circle of moods and you are a part of nature and so, like the tides, your moods will rise; your moods will fall.
Just passively letting your life happen may make it more difficult to accept yourself. Part of accepting yourself is engaging in activities that help you like yourself. Think back to those times when you weren’t concerned about your acceptability. What kinds of things were you doing? How were you spending your time? To accept and like yourself means that you approve of how you are living your life. If you aren’t accepting yourself, you probably don’t like the activities you’re engaged in. You are feeling dissatisfied. A way to increase your self-acceptance is to become more actively engaged in your life. Look for those activities and relationships that give you the most enjoyment – not necessarily the most enjoyment you could possibly have, but the most you can get from your choices at the moment. Try new things, perhaps things you have always wanted to try but didn’t because you felt you couldn’t do them. Try them with the attitude that you want to know what it would actually be like to do them. You may find that they are enjoyable and that you want to continue them. You may find that they are okay, but not worth continuing. You may find that you don’t like them at all and feel fine about crossing them off your list of things to do. Trying and getting real experience is a way of feeling better about yourself and gaining more confidence in your abilities.
Judging yourself by what others have accomplished is a sure way to lower your self-acceptance. Have you noticed that you never compare yourself to people who seem to aspire to less than you do and that you always chose those people who are the top performers or the most popular as your yardstick for success? Are you as good as your friends, your roommate, your brother or sister, your parents or Joe Blow? And how about trying to be like “normal” people are? (And who or what determines what is “normal”?) Can you only be good if you’re better than someone else? When we use other people as our yardstick, we aren’t taking into consideration our own personal limitations or talents. For example, if someone seems to be more articulate than you, you can respond in one of two ways: You can become upset and depressed by telling yourself that you should be as articulate as that person or you can recognize and accept the fact that there are probably a lot of people out there who are more articulate than you at certain times and under certain circumstances and that is okay. It doesn’t mean a thing about you. Playing the comparison game is a dead end street. By doing that you are probably missing some other qualities by which you can judge your own worth, like your honesty, friendliness, caring nature, dedication and so forth. And really, people don’t value you for how much you are like someone else. They do value you for the ways you are being you.
The idea that you should always be able to attain your goals as long as you work hard enough is another factor interfering with self-acceptance. You will reach many of your goals and should give yourself credit for having done so. Some of us have trouble seeing our successes because we focus so much on our failures and many times the failures come after a lot of hard work and personal suffering. It seems that all that hard work should pay off in our having reaching the goal we set out to achieve. It is hard to accept that a given goal may be out of our reach and that may be because of many factors, including the fact that we may not have the talent or skill needed to reach the goal. Of course there may be other factors in operation that make the achieving of that goal at that time impossible such as living environment concerns, Russian language problems, far away from family, extraneous stressors or any number of other factors acting alone or together. The real trick to self-acceptance is to see that the goal is unattainable, at least for now and shifting your focus to accomplishing what you can accomplish under the circumstances. That could include evaluating your original goal and deciding whether or not to continue with it. It also means giving yourself credit for what you have accomplished and what you have learned from your experiences.
Having standards that are impossibly high is a third way you can not accept yourself. It may not come as a surprise to you that most of us are more demanding of ourselves than we are of others. Somehow we can tolerate the fact that other people fail, that they aren’t always kind, that they’ve done things they aren’t proud of, but we have difficulty accepting those very human aspects of ourselves. The need to be perfect is another way to set yourself up for failure and enhance the feeling that you are not acceptable. We all make mistakes. Accepting less than perfection simply means recognizing the limitations inherent in being born a human being. Learn to value who you are rather than who you could become. To quote Linus, a sober and often worried character from a popular comic strip, “The world’s heaviest burden is a great potential”. Wouldn’t it be overwhelming if we always had to do what we imagine we could do? Nobody has the time and energy to do all of that. We must make choices about what we will pursue and do them the best we can under the circumstance (which aren’t always ideal, by the way).
Another thing that might cause you not to accept yourself is over-generalizing about something you’ve done that you don’t like. So, for example, if you fail a colloquium you might generalize and say, “I’m really a stupid person.” When you do this you are making a statement about all of you all of the time and not just about this one situation at this time was indeed poor and then go on to decide what you want to do about your poor grade, if anything. Getting stuck in over-generalizing discourages you from taking steps that might allow you to do better on the next exam and builds an expectation of future failure.
One way to really dislike yourself is to always judge yourself in a very moralistic way. People often spend a lot of time and energy labeling their behavior with moral adjectives such as “bad”, “hateful” and “mean”. When you apply these kinds of words to yourself you make liking yourself much more difficult. There is a more productive way of looking at yourself that will allow you to begin to like yourself more. Instead of evaluating yourself in this moralistic way, begin to ask questions like: “Did I do what I really wanted to do in this situation?” “How can I correct the misunderstanding that occurred?” In other words, you can start to view what you’ve done as productive or non-productive rather than as good or bad. If something is non-productive, you can focus on what you have learned form it and try another approach that might be more productive.
We are not born doubting ourselves. We learn to do it. In fact, we are usually taught to doubt ourselves. Often we are taught to do so by otherwise well-meaning people who are passing along their own doubts and uncertainties and who believe they are being protective and caring. What these people (usually parents and other significant adults) want are strong, capable and self-confident people, but they often inadvertently teach us thought processes that lead to something else. That’s the bad news. The good news is that we can understand some of these processes and learn new ways of coping that allow us to become more accepting of ourselves. Following are six behaviors you may have learned that can be unlearned and allow you to move toward greater self-acceptance. (will be continue)
Imagery is useful in building self-confidence, but only if properly applied.
Goal setting is probably the most effective way of building self-confidence. By setting measurable goals, achieving them, setting new goals, achieving them and so on you prove your ability to yourself. You are able to prove to yourself that you are able to perform and achieve effectively. You can see and recognize and enjoy your achievement and feel real self-worth in that achievement.
The way in which you are self-confident is important: if you are under confident, then you will not take risks that need to be taken. If you are over-confidence, then you can end up not trying hard enough and losing.
Self-confidence is arguably one of the most important things you can have. Self-confidence reflects your assessment of your own self-worth. It will play a large part in determining your happiness through life.
Many career expert believe failure as the castor oil of success. The idea isn’t to fling yourself into certain disaster in order to be mystically rewarded with triumph. Rather, it’s a simple recognition that people who willingly risk failure and learn from loss have the best chance of succeeding at whatever they try.
Figure it out for yourself, my lad. You’ve got all that the great have had: two arms, two legs, two hands, two eyes and a brain to use if you’d be wise. With this equipment they all began, so start for the top and say “I can”.
伊俊:
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