亲爱的母亲：
父亲已往生百日了，他教会了我们时事无常，要坦然地面对死亡，因为它是生命中的一部分；当懂得面对死亡了，活着就会更有力量。这种力量让我守丧期间，无畏无惧的睡在棺柩旁陪爸爸渡过最后的夜晚。
人间寿命因为短暂所以才更显得珍贵。难得来一趟人间，应问是否有为人生发挥其功能。如果每分每秒都好好做事，每天都活得像最后一天，任何时候就走得不遗憾！
祝：做好事，讲好话，存好心。
2009年3月6日 星期五
Be An Optimist
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If you change your mind – from pessimsm to optimism – you can change your life.
– Claipe Safran
Do you see the glass as half-full rather than half empty? Do you keep your eye upon the doughnut, not upon the hole? Suddenly these clichés are scientific questions, as researchers scrutinize the power of positive thinking. Research is proving that optimism can help you to be happier, healthier and more successful. Pessimism leads, by contrast, to hopelessness, sickness and failure, and is linked to depression, loneliness and painful shyness. If we could teach people to think more positively, it would be like inoculating them against these mental ills.
Your habits count but the belief that you can succeed affects whether or not you will. In part, that’s because optimists and pessimists deal with the same challenges and disappointments in very different ways. When things go wrong the pessimist tends to blame himself. “I am not good at this.” “I always fail.” He would say. But the optimist looks for loopholes. Negative or positive, it was a self-fulfilling prophecy. If people feel hopeless they don’t bother to acquire the skills they need to succeed.
A sense of control is the litmus test for success. The optimist feels in control of his own life. If things are going badly, he acts quickly, looking for solutions, forming a new plan of action and reaching out for advice. The pessimist feels like fate’s plaything and moves slowly. He doesn’t seek advice, since he assumes nothing can be done. Many studies suggest that the pessimist’s felling of helplessness undermines the body’s natural defenses, the immune system. Research has found that the pessimist doesn’t take good care of himself. Feeling passive and unable to dodge life’s blows, he expects ill health and other misfortunes, no matter what he does. He munches on junk food, avoids exercise, ignores the doctor and has another drink.
Most people are a mix of optimism and pessimism, but are inclined in one direction or the other. It is a pattern of thinking learned at our mothers’ knees. It grows out of thousands of cautions or encouragements, negative statements or positive ones. Too many “don’t” and warnings of danger can make a child feel incompetent, fearful – and pessimistic. Perhaps this is the reason why Yi Jun was inclined in pessimism more that optimism like what he mentions about my education way for him in his blog “Days In Moskva” on 7 February 2009:
For if dad taught something, it is always to be obeyed. – Yi Jun
As conclusion, pessimism is a hard habit to break – but it can be done.
– Claipe Safran
Do you see the glass as half-full rather than half empty? Do you keep your eye upon the doughnut, not upon the hole? Suddenly these clichés are scientific questions, as researchers scrutinize the power of positive thinking. Research is proving that optimism can help you to be happier, healthier and more successful. Pessimism leads, by contrast, to hopelessness, sickness and failure, and is linked to depression, loneliness and painful shyness. If we could teach people to think more positively, it would be like inoculating them against these mental ills.
Your habits count but the belief that you can succeed affects whether or not you will. In part, that’s because optimists and pessimists deal with the same challenges and disappointments in very different ways. When things go wrong the pessimist tends to blame himself. “I am not good at this.” “I always fail.” He would say. But the optimist looks for loopholes. Negative or positive, it was a self-fulfilling prophecy. If people feel hopeless they don’t bother to acquire the skills they need to succeed.
A sense of control is the litmus test for success. The optimist feels in control of his own life. If things are going badly, he acts quickly, looking for solutions, forming a new plan of action and reaching out for advice. The pessimist feels like fate’s plaything and moves slowly. He doesn’t seek advice, since he assumes nothing can be done. Many studies suggest that the pessimist’s felling of helplessness undermines the body’s natural defenses, the immune system. Research has found that the pessimist doesn’t take good care of himself. Feeling passive and unable to dodge life’s blows, he expects ill health and other misfortunes, no matter what he does. He munches on junk food, avoids exercise, ignores the doctor and has another drink.
Most people are a mix of optimism and pessimism, but are inclined in one direction or the other. It is a pattern of thinking learned at our mothers’ knees. It grows out of thousands of cautions or encouragements, negative statements or positive ones. Too many “don’t” and warnings of danger can make a child feel incompetent, fearful – and pessimistic. Perhaps this is the reason why Yi Jun was inclined in pessimism more that optimism like what he mentions about my education way for him in his blog “Days In Moskva” on 7 February 2009:
For if dad taught something, it is always to be obeyed. – Yi Jun
As conclusion, pessimism is a hard habit to break – but it can be done.
2009年3月5日 星期四
2009年3月4日 星期三
Love To Your Life
However mean your life is, meet it and live it; do not shun it and call it hard names. It is not so bad as you are. It looks poorest when you richest. The fault finder will find faults even in paradise. Love your life, poor as it is. You may perhaps have some pleasant, thrilling, glorious hours, even in a poor – house. The setting sun is reflected from the windows of the alms – house as brightly as from the rich man’s abode; the snow melts before its door as early in the spring. I do not see but a quiet mind may live as contentedly there, and have as cheering thoughts, as in a palace. The town’s poor seem to me often to live the most independent lives of any. Maybe they are simply great enough to receive without misgiving. Most think that they are above being supported by the town; but it oftener happens that they are not above supporting themselves by dishonest means, which should be more disreputable. Cultivate poverty like a garden herb, like sage. Do not trouble yourself much to get new things, whether clothes or friends. Turn the old, return to them. Things do not change; we change. Sell your clothes and keep your thoughts.
2009年3月3日 星期二
2009年3月2日 星期一
Life
Have you ever, at any one time, had the feeling that life is bad, real bad, and you wish you were in another situation? You find life make things difficult for you, work sucks, life sucks, and everything seems to go wrong …
Read the following story … it may change your views about life:
After a conversation with one of my friends, he told me despite taking two jobs, he brings back barely above 1K per month, he is happy as he is. I wonder how he can be as happy as he is considering he has to skimp his life with the low pay to support a pair of old parents, in-laws, a wife, two daughters and the many bill of a household.
He explained that it was through a incident that he saw in one country that happened a few years ago when he was really feeling low touring three after a major setback.
He said that right in front of his eyes, he saw a mother chop off her child’s right hand with a chopper. The helplessness in the mother’s eyes, the scream of pain from the innocent 4 year old child haunted him until today.
You may ask why did the mother do so; had the child been naughty, had the child’s hand been infected? No, it was done for two simple words – TO BEG! The desperate mother deliberately caused the child to be handicapped so that the the child could go out to the streets to beg.
Taken aback by the scene, he dropped a piece of bread he was eating halfway. And almost instantly, a flock of 5 or 6 children swamped towards this small piece of bread which was covered with sand, robbing bits from one another – the natural reaction of hunger.
Stricken by the happenings, he instructed his guide to drive him to the nearest bakery. He arrived at two bakeries and bought every single loaf of bread he found in the bakeries. The owner was dumfounded but willingly sold everything. He spent less that $100 to obtain about 400 loaves of bread and spent another $100 to get daily necessities.
Off he went in the truck full of bread into the streets. As he distributed the bread and necessities to he children (mostly handicapped) and a few adults, he received cheers and bows from these unfortunate. For the first time in his life he wondered how people can give up their dignity for a loaf of bread which cost less than $0.25.
He began to tell himself how fortunate he is. How fortunate he is to be able to have a complete body, have a job, have a family, have the chance to complain what food is nice and what isn’t nice, have the chance to be clothed, have the many things that these people in front of him are deprived of …
Now I begin to think and feel it, too! Was my life really that bad? Perhaps --- No, I should not feel bad at all … What about you? Maybe the next time you think you are, think about the child who lost one hand to beg on the streets. “Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want; it is the realization of how much you already have.”
When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one which has been opened for us. It’s true that we don’t know what we’ve got until we lost it, but it’s also true that we don’t know what we have been missing until it arrives.
Read the following story … it may change your views about life:
After a conversation with one of my friends, he told me despite taking two jobs, he brings back barely above 1K per month, he is happy as he is. I wonder how he can be as happy as he is considering he has to skimp his life with the low pay to support a pair of old parents, in-laws, a wife, two daughters and the many bill of a household.
He explained that it was through a incident that he saw in one country that happened a few years ago when he was really feeling low touring three after a major setback.
He said that right in front of his eyes, he saw a mother chop off her child’s right hand with a chopper. The helplessness in the mother’s eyes, the scream of pain from the innocent 4 year old child haunted him until today.
You may ask why did the mother do so; had the child been naughty, had the child’s hand been infected? No, it was done for two simple words – TO BEG! The desperate mother deliberately caused the child to be handicapped so that the the child could go out to the streets to beg.
Taken aback by the scene, he dropped a piece of bread he was eating halfway. And almost instantly, a flock of 5 or 6 children swamped towards this small piece of bread which was covered with sand, robbing bits from one another – the natural reaction of hunger.
Stricken by the happenings, he instructed his guide to drive him to the nearest bakery. He arrived at two bakeries and bought every single loaf of bread he found in the bakeries. The owner was dumfounded but willingly sold everything. He spent less that $100 to obtain about 400 loaves of bread and spent another $100 to get daily necessities.
Off he went in the truck full of bread into the streets. As he distributed the bread and necessities to he children (mostly handicapped) and a few adults, he received cheers and bows from these unfortunate. For the first time in his life he wondered how people can give up their dignity for a loaf of bread which cost less than $0.25.
He began to tell himself how fortunate he is. How fortunate he is to be able to have a complete body, have a job, have a family, have the chance to complain what food is nice and what isn’t nice, have the chance to be clothed, have the many things that these people in front of him are deprived of …
Now I begin to think and feel it, too! Was my life really that bad? Perhaps --- No, I should not feel bad at all … What about you? Maybe the next time you think you are, think about the child who lost one hand to beg on the streets. “Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want; it is the realization of how much you already have.”
When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one which has been opened for us. It’s true that we don’t know what we’ve got until we lost it, but it’s also true that we don’t know what we have been missing until it arrives.
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