新的出口，就在放下当中

锦莲：

你女儿不幸的消息确实令我们无不震惊与难过。一时间难以接受活人早已化为骨灰的事实，在百般悲伤和无奈的情况之下，我们盼望你能够早日走出忧伤和放下悲痛。
生有日，死也有时，无人有权利掌管生命，将生命留住；也无人有权利掌管死期。这生命中最后的争战；没有一人能幸免。人类为有安然学习，勇敢去面对和接纳早已不能改变的事实。因此，当你跌入生命的幽谷时，不妨不挣扎也不怨天，选择放下，全然地拥抱幽谷的一切，这时，你会发现原来新的出口，就在这放下当中。祝：幸福快乐。

The "SECRETS" To A Great Life

A great life doesn’t by accident. A great life is the result of allocating your time, energy, thoughts and hard work towards what you want your life to be. Stop setting yourself up for stress and failure and start setting up your life to support success and ease. A Great life is the result of using the 24 /7 you get in a creative and thoughtful way, instead of just what comes next. Customize these “SECRETS” to fit your own needs and style and start creating your own great life today!

1. S – simplify. A great life is the result of simplifying your life. People often misinterpret what simplify means. It’s not a way to remove work from your life. When you focus on simplifying your life, you free up energy and time for the work that you enjoy and the purpose for which you are here. In order to create a great life, you will have to make room for it in yours first.

2. E – Effort. A great life is the result of your best effort. Creating a great life requires that you make some adjustments. It may mean reevaluating how you spend your time or choosing to spend your money in a different way. It may mean looking for new ways to spend your energy that coincide with your particular definition of a great life. Life will reward your best effort.

3. C – Create Priorities. A great life is the result of creating priorities. It’s easy to spend your days just responding to the next thing that gets your attention, instead of intentionally using the time, energy and money you have in a way that’s important to you. Focus on removing the obstacles that get in the way of you making sure you are honoring your priorities.

4. R – Reserves. A great life is the result of having reserves – reserves of things, time, space, energy, money. With reserves, you acquire far more than you need not 6 months living expenses, but 5 years worth; not 15 minutes of free time, 1 day. Reserves are important because they reduce the fear of consequences and that allows you to make decisions based on what you really want instead of what the fear decides for you.

5. E – Eliminate distractions. A great life is the result of eliminating distractions. Up to 75% o your mental energy can be tied up in things that are draining and distracting you. Eliminating distractions can be a difficult concept to many people, since they haven’t really considered that there is another way to live. Look around at someone’s life you admire. What do they do that you would like to incorporate into your own life? Ask them how they did it. Find ways to free up your mental energy for things that are more important to you.’

6. T – Thoughts. A great life is the result of controlling your thoughts so that you accept and allow for the possibility that it actually can happen to you! Your belief in the outcome will directly dictate how successful you are. Motivated people have specific goals and look for ways to achieve them. Believing there is a solution to the same old problems you encounter year after year is vitally important to creating a life that you love.

7. S – Start. A great life is the result of starting. There’s the old saying everyone’s familiar with “a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” In order to even move from the couch to the refrigerator, you have to start. There’s no better time to start than today. Don’t wait for a raise, or until the kids get older or the weather is better. Today, right now, is the right day to start to take a step in the direction of your heart’s desires. It’s what you do TODAY that will make a difference in your life tomorrow.

父亲把信心，毅力及勇气留给我们

亲爱的母亲：

祖父二战时忠烈爱国，牺牲国土，故爸爸自幼丧父，其母亲因生活困苦而改嫁。虽然如此爸爸也没因而生活有改善。因姑婆膝下无子，把父亲的抚养权争夺过来，切没得到姑婆的宽待。父亲这一辈子生活坎坷曲折，年青时还无端端被英殖民地政府捉去坐牢。自此以后爸爸学会了制鞋手艺。他以敬业乐业的精神做了这辈子的鞋匠养活我们一家人。虽然他没像林梧桐般拥有金山银山富可敌国的财富，但他把信心，毅力及勇气遗留给了我们这一代。这三者具备，则可让我们轻易立足于社会。爸爸是一支有泪的蜡烛，他点燃了我们的生命。 祝：有心就有福

True Nobility

In a clam sea every man is a pilot.

But all sunshine without shade, all pleasure without pain, is not life at all. Take the lot of the happiest – it is a tangled yarn. Bereavements and blessings, one following another, make us sad and blessed by turns. Even death itself makes life more loving. Men come closest to their true selves in the sober moments of life, under the shadows of sorrow and loss.

In the affairs of life or of business, it is not intellect that tells so much as character, not brains so much as heart, not genius so much as self-control, patience and discipline, regulated by judgment.

I have always believed that the man who has begun to live more seriously within begins to live more simply without. In an age of extravagance and waste, I wish I could show to the world how few the real wants of humanity are.

To regret one’s errors to the point of not repeating them is true repentance.

There is nothing noble in being superior to some other man. The true nobility is in being superior to your previous self.

敬老尊贤，血脉相承

亲爱的母亲：

父亲在世时，教会我们敬老尊贤。他最尊敬我们的亲爱外婆。每当外婆来访，他必须亲自放下工作出来迎接问好。外婆早已把父亲当儿子，可是父亲逝世切不告知婆婆老人家，何孝有之？哀哉！

虽然父亲未曾向我们提起过他敬爱的曾祖母，但他对曾祖母的恩惠念念不忘。因为曾祖母是他自幼从中国南下南洋的唯一至亲。当曾祖母往生后，父亲都一直保留着其遗照，但因种种不为人知的缘故，父亲勉强把曾祖母的遗照挂在工厂一处暗不见光又不显眼的板上，天天守望着其可怜的孙子在困苦中补鞋磨鞋求生活。一眼望去，曾祖母有着贤慧慈祥的音容，但有些人切望之生惧。有道是疑心生鬼。心中有疑，什么都挂碍。心中坦然，念念只有佛，就什么事都没有。

但愿有一天，曾祖母和父亲的遗照能堂堂正正挂在大厅堂保佑着李家子子孙孙血脉相承，延续家族的精神，出人头地，光荣耀祖。祝：选择放下，就能活在当下。