俄罗斯的艺术

令人感动的是在这不笑的城市--莫斯科，忠于艺术创作者即使穷生活，也不愿意穷艺术。

从高尚的莫斯科圣彼得堡花园的博物馆和艺术馆，到莫斯科街头艺术，俄罗斯人变化无穷的艺术创作元素和创意，展现了多姿多采的精神创作。

在不笑的城市中，俄罗斯男女仿佛是从服装店橱窗跃出来的模特兒，长相非常精致。因为俄罗斯人很重视仪容; 出门的女孩们必定会化装，男孩则衣著端庄。

莫斯科人的生活

在俄罗斯，历史和文化艺术紧紧的拴在一起，前身是共产国家，解体后的俄罗斯人其实仍保持拘谨的态度，生活水准的高消费，导致一般平民仍面对生活和经济压力，因此笑容鲜少会出现在面容，甚至借酒消愁，人人手不离煙; 所以莫斯科人並不友善，但煙酒切最便宜，大约与马来西亚的免税区Pulau Langkawi同價格。

甚至于，这里的人说，在共产的拘谨，也让他们感觉到如果一个人总是在笑，会让人感觉那是” 不严肃，轻浮” 的人。

俄罗斯的莫斯科

从俄罗斯到另一个国度乌克兰，这样的教堂设计都无所不在。更震撼人心的是教堂内部壁画，从天花板到每一根柱子上，都完好的保存十七世纪留下来的画作，宗教和艺术伴隨历史嵌入现在和未来。

俄罗斯的圣彼得堡

俄罗斯的圣彼得堡和莫斯科，有很多的教堂，外观设计如同马来西亚的回教堂; 教堂顶端有一个个矗立的园顶，然而园顶上却都有一个个十字架。历史文化背景，造就了教堂融合了回教堂的设计特色，宗教和设计的园融和谐并存，让人感觉到说不出的平静和感动。

6. Passivity

Just passively letting your life happen may make it more difficult to accept yourself. Part of accepting yourself is engaging in activities that help you like yourself. Think back to those times when you weren’t concerned about your acceptability. What kinds of things were you doing? How were you spending your time? To accept and like yourself means that you approve of how you are living your life. If you aren’t accepting yourself, you probably don’t like the activities you’re engaged in. You are feeling dissatisfied. A way to increase your self-acceptance is to become more actively engaged in your life. Look for those activities and relationships that give you the most enjoyment – not necessarily the most enjoyment you could possibly have, but the most you can get from your choices at the moment. Try new things, perhaps things you have always wanted to try but didn’t because you felt you couldn’t do them. Try them with the attitude that you want to know what it would actually be like to do them. You may find that they are enjoyable and that you want to continue them. You may find that they are okay, but not worth continuing. You may find that you don’t like them at all and feel fine about crossing them off your list of things to do. Trying and getting real experience is a way of feeling better about yourself and gaining more confidence in your abilities.

5. The Comparison Trap

Judging yourself by what others have accomplished is a sure way to lower your self-acceptance. Have you noticed that you never compare yourself to people who seem to aspire to less than you do and that you always chose those people who are the top performers or the most popular as your yardstick for success? Are you as good as your friends, your roommate, your brother or sister, your parents or Joe Blow? And how about trying to be like “normal” people are? (And who or what determines what is “normal”?) Can you only be good if you’re better than someone else? When we use other people as our yardstick, we aren’t taking into consideration our own personal limitations or talents. For example, if someone seems to be more articulate than you, you can respond in one of two ways: You can become upset and depressed by telling yourself that you should be as articulate as that person or you can recognize and accept the fact that there are probably a lot of people out there who are more articulate than you at certain times and under certain circumstances and that is okay. It doesn’t mean a thing about you. Playing the comparison game is a dead end street. By doing that you are probably missing some other qualities by which you can judge your own worth, like your honesty, friendliness, caring nature, dedication and so forth. And really, people don’t value you for how much you are like someone else. They do value you for the ways you are being you.

4. Not Accepting That There Are Real Limits To Your Abilities

The idea that you should always be able to attain your goals as long as you work hard enough is another factor interfering with self-acceptance. You will reach many of your goals and should give yourself credit for having done so. Some of us have trouble seeing our successes because we focus so much on our failures and many times the failures come after a lot of hard work and personal suffering. It seems that all that hard work should pay off in our having reaching the goal we set out to achieve. It is hard to accept that a given goal may be out of our reach and that may be because of many factors, including the fact that we may not have the talent or skill needed to reach the goal. Of course there may be other factors in operation that make the achieving of that goal at that time impossible such as living environment concerns, Russian language problems, far away from family, extraneous stressors or any number of other factors acting alone or together. The real trick to self-acceptance is to see that the goal is unattainable, at least for now and shifting your focus to accomplishing what you can accomplish under the circumstances. That could include evaluating your original goal and deciding whether or not to continue with it. It also means giving yourself credit for what you have accomplished and what you have learned from your experiences.

3. Impossibly High Standards

Having standards that are impossibly high is a third way you can not accept yourself. It may not come as a surprise to you that most of us are more demanding of ourselves than we are of others. Somehow we can tolerate the fact that other people fail, that they aren’t always kind, that they’ve done things they aren’t proud of, but we have difficulty accepting those very human aspects of ourselves. The need to be perfect is another way to set yourself up for failure and enhance the feeling that you are not acceptable. We all make mistakes. Accepting less than perfection simply means recognizing the limitations inherent in being born a human being. Learn to value who you are rather than who you could become. To quote Linus, a sober and often worried character from a popular comic strip, “The world’s heaviest burden is a great potential”. Wouldn’t it be overwhelming if we always had to do what we imagine we could do? Nobody has the time and energy to do all of that. We must make choices about what we will pursue and do them the best we can under the circumstance (which aren’t always ideal, by the way).

2. Over-generalizing

Another thing that might cause you not to accept yourself is over-generalizing about something you’ve done that you don’t like. So, for example, if you fail a colloquium you might generalize and say, “I’m really a stupid person.” When you do this you are making a statement about all of you all of the time and not just about this one situation at this time was indeed poor and then go on to decide what you want to do about your poor grade, if anything. Getting stuck in over-generalizing discourages you from taking steps that might allow you to do better on the next exam and builds an expectation of future failure.