2009年6月19日 星期五

We Are Happiest In Our Life


A man and his girlfriend were married. It was a large celebration. All of their friends and family came to see the lovely ceremony and to partake of the festivities and celebrations. All had wonderful time.

The bride was gorgeous in her white wedding gown and the groom was very dashing in his black tuxedo. Everyone could tell that the love they had for each other was true.

A few months later, the wife came to the husband with a proposal, “I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage,” she offered, “Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together.”

The husband agreed. So each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other. They thought abut this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with.

The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists.

“I’ll start.” offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many items on it. Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husband’s eyes.

“What’s wrong?” she asked. “Nothing,” the husband replied, “keep reading your list.”

The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her husband. She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over the top of it.

“Now, you read your list and then we’ll talk about the things on both of our lists.” She said happily.

Quietly the husband stated, “I don’t have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don’t want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn’t want to try and change anything about you.”

The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.

In life, there is enough time when we are disappointed, depressed and annoyed. We don’t really have to go looking for them. We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and promise. Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or annoying when we can look around us and see the wondrous things before us?

2009年6月18日 星期四

对婆婆要用心,细心


亲爱的婆婆:

虽然我不能常回去探望婆婆,但通过书信也算是对婆婆的一种关怀。
婆婆是一位通情达理的丈母娘。记得三姨随夫婿回乡职教去。婆婆虽然不舍,但也没什么怨言。还说人家也有父母,莫因为了留住自己的女儿而让他人失去了一个儿子。婆婆虽然教育不多,但有圣人般的智慧。正如证严法师所说:【女儿出嫁了,是多了一个儿子,并非少了一个女儿。】婆婆深懂的放下,唯三姨自己放不下。
【放下】并不是不爱婆婆,而是对婆婆要用心,细心,不要操心,烦心。祝安康。

2009年6月17日 星期三

Life Is An Attitudes


Dear Yi Jun,

We walk through life making choices. Some of them are good and some of them not so good, but hopefully we learn something from all of them. Life is an attitude, our attitude always affects us. We can’t choose what happens to us, but we can choose our attitudes toward each situation.

If we walk through life on the path we have chosen feeling as though we have to do this or we have to do that, eventually we might fell overwhelmed. We must change our attitude and looking at the opportunities presented to us each day. If we at those opportunities or challenges with a “get to” instead of a “have to” se might enjoy the journey just a little bit more.

If you make a conscious effort over the next couple of days to exchange the words “have to” with “get to” in your conversations with friends, coworkers and family, but most of all in your thoughts, and something amazing will happen. You will notice that all the things you “get to” do and started appreciating the opportunities and challenges on your path.

Just imagine:
You get to go to university to fulfill your dream.
You get to go to oversea when so many people can’t.
You get to do the laundry, thankful for a washing machine and dryer.
You get spend time with a friend, who needs you help.
You get to read a book; you still have your sight.
You get to remember the things that make you happy.

I give you a challenge. With every thought and conversation for the next day or two, change the words “I have to” with the words “I get to” and see if it make a difference in your day.

2009年6月16日 星期二

A Lesson For Our Life


One day a father took his young son on a trip to the country with the firm purpose to show him how poor people can be. They spent a day and a night in the farm of a very poor family. When they got back from their trip the father asked his son, “How was the trip?”

“Very good, Dad!”

“Did you see how poor people can be?” the father asked.

“Yeah!”

“And what did you learn?”

The son answered, “I saw that we have a dog at home, and they have four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of the garden; they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lamps in the garden; they have the stars. Our patio reaches to the front yard; they have a whole horizon.”

When the little boy was finishing, his father was speechless.

His son added, “Thanks, Dad, for showing me how poor we are!”

Isn’t it ture that it all depends on the way you look a things? If you have love, friends, family, healath, good humor and a positive attitude towards life, you’ve got everything!

2009年6月15日 星期一

潮洲乡音


亲爱的婆婆:

门前两种梨,算来算去三百个;
人说阿兄会选妻,选得一个妻长短脚。


这是我小时候常听到婆婆哄孩子入睡的歌谣。这种旋律优美的声音,会让我们倍感亲切。一听见,心里会涌起温柔与亲和之感,我们称之为“潮洲乡音”。
潮洲乡音是新山人都熟悉的语言,也是伴随我们成长的各种声调。乡音,是我思念婆婆的记号,在浮华的变迁社会里,那是最温馨的回忆。
来到今天,以往熟悉的潮洲乡音也逐渐退隐至时代的角落,婆婆郎郎上口的歌谣随着婆婆的记忆渐渐地消失了。但是我还是感恩婆婆陪着我们走到今天这个进步的社会。感谢婆婆,祝身体健康。

2009年6月14日 星期日

I Wish You Enough


Dear Yi Jun,

I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirits up.
I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish you enough hellos to get your friends at Moscow.