人生的价值

伊浚，

在你学医的过程中，是否有提升了自己的專业知识，是不是真的以后可以提供别人有用的价值？请不要因自己拥有很多才能而骄傲，也不要妄自菲薄而自卑。一个人真正的价值，其实建立在别人的需要上，愈多人需要你，你的价值就愈高。人生若能被人需要，能夠有一份功能为人付出，这才是最幸福的人生。换句话说，多一主动提供别人一些具体的帮助，你能够成全愈多的人，你的人生就愈成功。祝出入平安，事事顺利。

沙俄侵占中亚和阿拉斯加

沙俄侵占中亚细亚
18世纪中期，沙俄开始侵入哈萨克(Kazakh)西北部。从19世纪30年代起，沙皇政府主要采取蚕食手段，或通过军事入侵，或以“自愿归顺”为名，逐步占领中亚北部的草原地区。六、七十年代，沙皇政府相继征服了中亚南部的三个国家，即浩罕汗国(Kokand Khanate)、布哈拉汗国(Bukhara Khanate)和希瓦汗国(Khiva Khanate)，把它们并入了帝国版图。接着，沙俄又征服了中亚最后一个地区土库曼(Turkmen)，完成了对包括哈萨克人、吉尔吉斯人、乌兹别克人和土库曼人居住的中亚细亚广大地区的占领。

沙俄占领阿拉斯加
阿拉斯加位于北美洲的西北角。1784年，俄国殖民者开始在阿拉斯加西海岸建立殖民据点。到18世纪末，沙俄在北太平洋的势力已扩展到阿拉斯加内陆地区和阿留申群岛(Aleutian Island)，把这个号称“毛皮王国”的广大地区变成它的殖民地。

沙俄侵占中国领土

17世纪对中国黑龙江流域的侵略

1643年，驻雅库茨克的俄国统领派波雅科夫(Poliakov)组成远征军，越过外兴安岭，侵入中国黑龙江流域。1651年，沙俄殖民者强占了中国黑龙江中游的交通枢纽雅克萨，井在那里筑堡屯兵，作为进一步入侵中国的据点。沙俄殖民者四处捕捉人质、抢劫粮食、勒索贡税，遭到当地居民和清朝军队的坚决抵抗。1686年，清军进军雅克萨，打败俄军。

1689年，中俄两国经过平等协商，签订了第一个边界条约——(尼布楚条约)，明文规定格尔毕齐河、额尔古纳河和外兴安岭为两国东段分界线。这在法律上肯定了外兴安岭以南的黑龙江和乌苏里江流域，包括库页岛(Sakhalin)，都是中国领土。在谈判中，中国政府作出重大让步，同意将贝加尔湖以东地区换取沙俄撤离雅克萨城堡。

19世纪侵占中国东北、西北大片领土

19世纪中期，西方列强大举入侵中国，沙皇俄国侵略中国的野心又起。19世纪50年代初期，沙俄以武力强占丁中国黑龙江以北的大片领土和库页岛的部分地区。之后，沙俄继续扩张政策，夺取东北和西北大片领土。在不到半个世纪的时间里，沙皇俄国总共从中国夺去150万平方公里的土地。

俄罗斯沙皇跨过乌拉山脉

俄罗斯原是一个欧洲的内陆国家。自第一代沙皇伊凡四世以来，历代沙皇都积极地向外侵略扩张，企图建立一个地跨欧亚的大帝国。

早在16世纪中期，俄国的东部疆界已推进到里海(CaspianSea)和乌拉山脉(Ural Mountains)一带。16世纪下半期，沙皇俄国跨过乌拉山脉，开始侵入亚洲。首先遭到吞并的是位于乌拉山脉以东、鄂毕河(Ob River)中游的失比儿(Sibir)汗国。17世纪，沙俄殖民者从鄂毕河扩张到叶尼塞河(YeniseiRiver)，又从叶尼塞河扩张到勒拿河(LenaRiver)，并在勒拿河中游建立雅库茨克(Yakutsk)，这里后来成为沙俄侵略者进一步东侵的重要基地。到17世纪末，大部分西伯利亚(Siberia)土地已被沙俄侵占。

“西伯利亚”原指位于乌拉山脉以东的失比儿汗国，俄国人称这个国家为西伯利亚汗国。“西伯利亚”一词就是由"失比儿”一词转译而来的。后来，俄国殖民者在征服失比儿汗国后，继续向东扩张，将他们所征服的亚洲北部地区统称为“西伯利亚”。

沙俄侵略者的足迹也延伸到亚洲的东北部分。1648年，沙俄侵略者到达白令海(Bering Sea)，首次证明亚洲和美洲两个大陆是隔海相望的。第二年，俄国殖民者在鄂霍次克海(Sea of Okhotsk)边建立了鄂霍次克城。17世纪末，沙俄又占领了堪察加(Kamchatka)半岛的大部分地区。至此，在不到一个半世纪里，沙俄就从乌拉山脉扩张到太平洋沿岸，其规模之大，速度之快，是极为罕见的。

俄罗斯专制王权的兴起

莫斯科公国不断兼并周围的公国。大公伊凡三世(1van III，1462—1505在位)靠馈赠金银等手段，得到蒙古统治者的重用。15世纪，钦察汗国分裂，伊凡三世乘机扩大领域；1480年，又迫使前来讨伐的钦察汗国军队退却，取得独立。他铲除不听命的贵族，集中军权，自称沙皇(Czar)，为专制制度奠定了基础。

伊凡四世(Ivan IV，1533—1584在位)是个狂暴专制的君主。他无情镇压贵族的叛乱，加强军力，制定法典，确立了沙皇专制政体，并且进一步扩大了疆土。

俄国长期接受蒙古和东罗马帝国的影响，基督教也是从君士坦丁堡传入的东正教，与西方接触不多，又盛行农奴制，因此一直比较落后。彼得一世(又称彼得大帝，Peter the Great，1682—1725在位)当政以后，努力使俄国西方化。他曾微服考察西欧，回国后即进行经济、政治机构、军事、教育各方面的改革。他的另一个目标是为俄国取得出海口，为此与瑞典和土耳其进行战争。1703年，俄国从瑞典夺得涅瓦河(Neva River)口的土地，在这里兴建新都圣彼得堡(St．Petersburg)，后来又夺取了波罗的海东岸地区。黑海的出海口是在喀德琳二世(CatherineⅡ，1762—1796在位)时取得的。她还联同奥、普瓜分波兰，使俄国成为一个强国。

俄罗斯兴起

13世纪初，蒙古帝国在亚洲东部兴起。它的西征，震惊了欧洲。俄罗斯亦处于蒙古人的统治下。后来，以莫斯科(Moscow)为中心的莫斯科公国日渐强大，并于1480年打败统治那里的蒙古人，摆脱了蒙古人的奴役。16世纪早期，以莫斯科公国为中心，形成了统一的俄罗斯。
俄罗斯是东部斯拉夫人的国家，是以莫斯科公国(Grand Duchy of Moscow)为中心发展起来。13世纪初，蒙古帝国在亚洲东部兴起。它的西征，震惊了欧洲。俄罗斯亦处于蒙古人的统治下，曾臣属于蒙古人的钦察汗国(Empire of Kipchak)。16世纪早期，以莫斯科(Moscow)为中心的莫斯科公国日渐强大，并于1480年打败统治那里的蒙古人，摆脱了蒙古人的奴役而独立，以后不断扩张，发展为统一的俄罗斯国家。

完美与不完美

有位教授正在准备他明天讲课的教材，可是他的小儿子却在一边吵闹不休，要爸爸带他出外玩。教授无可奈何，便随手拾起一本旧杂志，把杂志后面的一幅世界地图撕成碎片，丢在地上。然后，对儿子说：“如果你能拼好这张地图，我就带你出去玩。”

教授以为这样会使儿子花上整整半天的时间，那么他自己就可以静心工作了。但是，不到十分钟，儿子就敲了他的 房门，手中拿着那份拼得完完整整的地图。教授对儿子很快就拼好了这幅世界地图感到十分惊讶，便问：“孩子，你怎会这么快就拼好了地图?”

“噢!”儿子说，“这很容易，爸爸。地图的背面有一个人的照片。我就把这个人的照片拼到了一起，然后把它翻过来。我想如果这个人拼对了，那么世界地图也就拼对了。”

教授肯定了儿子的判断，便带他去邻近的公园好好玩了一整天。并对他说：“孩子，你真聪明!你替我准备好了明天教课的好题目：换一面看问题，你的世界也会是对的。”

看到乌云时，也要看到它周围的光边。光边表示乌云的背后就是阳光。换个方向，你可能会看到光明。

世界上的完美与不完美，是同时存在的。就像黑夜与白天，嚴冬与夏日，是如此相存相依的。因为有黑夜的深暗，才能彰顕白天的明媚，因为有冬日的嚴寒，才能感受夏日的暖热。

遇到生命中的不完美时，反而应该感到期待，因为生命中的完美，在下一刻也许就会出现。

Stress Make You Young

You must have heard stress contributes to 80% of major illness and is responsible for 75% to 90% of doctor’s visits. But that’s not stress; it’s distress. “Stress is the only anti aging agent we know of the exact opposite of what we think,” says psychologist James E. Loehr.

Stress is a biochemical reaction, the fight or flight adrenal rush that readies a body for short term challenges, such as a tired pilot making an emergency landing. The adrenal gland releases cortical, which in the short term increases immune cells to kill damaged or infected cells.

Stress is essential. Life without it would be like having a new Porsche and driving only in the driveway.

What really brings happiness is meeting obstacles and overcoming them. The damage occurs when stress levers never go down. A recent study showed it took nine days longer for the constantly stressed family caregivers of chronically ill patients to heal from wounds than it took other people the same age. It’s not stress that’s issue; it’s insufficient intermittent recovery.

The key to taking stress head on is being relaxed. The traditional vacation week off here or there is not enough to really recharge. Power vacations are the ticket, even if they’re just changing venues for an afternoon. Make mini “vacations” routine, even you don’t have to go anywhere at all, physically, as long as your mind is somewhere else.

罗米街的老雜货店—华晟

亲爱的婆婆：

罗米街，一条活在老新山，甚至新山以外的人记忆里的一条老街。
公公的老雜货店—”华晟”就座落在这条潮州街的路口。店面虽小，但五臓齐全。在姨姨们的拹力和公公的检樸经营下养活了我们这一代人。然而，城市的发展使罗米街当年的风光急速消减，它的景色已在城市走向国际大都会格局的步履下被掩埋了。然而，只要放缓脚步，细细观赏周围老店的面貌，沿路上，总会拾起许多老店的小故事。这些您不问，他不说的故事，会随着不断辗转而过的岁月年轮磨灭去。究竟，还有多少个曾在此处留下痕迹的人与故事，后人怎么会刻意去记住它呢！祝母亲节快乐。

Mom's Day 2010

A Lesson You Need To Learn

Have you ever notice that lessons tend to repeat themselves? You may continually attract the same lesson into your life. You may also draw to your teachers to teach you that lesson until you get it right. You may try to avoid the situation, but they will eventually catch up with you. The only way you can free yourself of difficult patterns and issues you tend to repeat is by shifting your perspective so that you can recognize the patterns and learn the lessons that they offer. To face these challenges means you need to accept the fact that something within you keeps drawing you to the same kind of person or issue, though that situation or relationship may be very painful.

The challenge, therefore, is to identify and release the patterns that you are repeating. This is no easy task, since it means you have to change, and change is not always easy. Staying just as you are may not help you advance spiritually, but it certainly is comfortable in its familiarity.

Rising to the challenge of identifying and releasing your patterns forces you to admit that the way you have been doing things isn't working. The good news is that by identifying and releasing the pattern, you actually learn how to change. In order to facilitate your process of change, you will need to learn the lessons of willingness and patience. Once you master these, you will most likely find the challenge of identifying and releasing your patterns far less intimidating.

The real secret to being able to change is the willingness to do so. If you are to make any progress in excavating yourself from the cycles that entrap you, you must first identify the patterns that keep you stuck. Then you can begin to release the old behaviors.

If you truly want to change, you will choose to do it, and make a commitment to the process of it. However, if you rely on the thought that you should change, you will make the decision to do so and then you will feel the pinch of sacrifice. Following the current trends, the advice of friends, or the wishes of family members result in decision; following you inner compass results in choice.

So when you are struggling to make a change in your life, ask yourself, "How willing am I, really, to make this change?" If you are not succeeding, there's a good chance that you may be relying on your belief that you should change, rather than on your intrinsic desire to do so,

Patience is the display of tolerance while awaiting an outcome. You are presented with the lesson of patience the moment you try to create a change within yourself. You expect immediate results and are often disappointed when your first few attempts to follow through fall short. When people who try to lose weight cheat on their diets, they get very frustrated with themselves for not being able to stay with their new eating regime and berate themselves for not changing their patterns.

As you already know, change is rarely easy, and you need to exercise gentleness and patience with yourself as you work your way through this process. Growth can be a slow, painstaking process and patience will provide you with the stamina you need to become the person you want to be.

If you absolutely hate getting stuck in traffic, chances are that you need a little work in the area of patience. And, chances are, you will probably get stuck in more traffic jams than someone who has no issue with patience--and not simply because the universe has a sense of humor. You sill just notice the traffic more than someone who has more patience.

Remember, a lesson will be repeated until learned. It just takes a little patience.

Accept The Challenges

Should we easily wail about the embarrassment and the unfairness of life? Or should we accept obstacles as challenges? With a choice of stance we can allow ourselves to be oppressed victims. When anything happens to us, we can take it as a sign that we should not expect anything good out of our lives. These are times when we need to determine whether it is wisdom or fear that motivates us in our choices.

If we view our lives as a juggling act or a sort of sporting contest, we learn to go along with the limitations and obstacles that are dealt us. We then find ways to make it through the event in good shape and with energy. Different talents and strengths will be called upon to get through the obstacles. Our faith, humor, and hope may be tested, but they are what keep us going as we try to overcome the various obstacles.

Discrimination and prejudice are challenges. We force ourselves to work twice as hard as others; however, the rewards from our work are ours to enjoy. The important thing is to be working at something we find meaningful and worthwhile.

To succeed, you must accept challenges. There will always be barriers, cultural differences, and lack of understanding around us, but it is beneficial for us to stay together, be sensitive to each other needs, and to help each other. Maintaining cultural diversity and integrity is possible as a healthy community builds on teamwork, praise, pride and enthusiasm. Once, we are dedicated to improve critical skills such as knowledge sharing, collaboration, flexibility and risk taking, we will improve our future.

Together, we can make our world a better place in which to live by changing the way we and the rest of the population view it--positively. Let s make this challenge a reality.

虚心求教

伊浚:

真正求学问的人，无须刻意咬文嚼字，要时时反观我们自己的内心有没有真正求学问的态度。真正有财富的人，不须故意穿金戴玉，过度打扮。愈是伟大的巨星，愈能够展现亲和力。真正有自信的人，隨时都乐意放下身段，和别人分享自己的所知所能，也愿意虚心求教，向教授，向师长，向同学学习自己所不擅长的事物。不要怕穷，要穷中立志，不要怕苦，要苦中进取 。在通往成功的过程中，有时是孤单，是穷苦，是寂凉，但也是充满希望，毫不抱怨，只有坚定信念，努力实践。辛苦过后，必有幸福来临啊！祝学以專长，备以后用。

How To Be A Leader

Dear Yi Jun,

Now’s a day youth seem content to take the easy route and enjoy the ride of life. When tough situations arise, they often pout and complain. How your teen years life will have a profound impact on your future life. You must learn to utilize your time wisely.

You may not see it now, but developing leadership characteristics at a young age is very important. As we get older, it becomes harder to overcome bad habits and replace them with good ones. Possessing leadership qualities is essential, both in this life and in the future world.

There are certain qualities that to become a leader: justice, judgment, dependability, initiative, decisiveness, tact, integrity, enthusiasm, poise, unselfishness, courage, knowledge and loyalty. You may recognize these as good qualities to have, but did not apply it in your life. The more that these qualities are part of your nature, the more productive and enjoyable your life will be. All of these are qualities that one must possess to one degree or another.

Contrary to popular opinion, leadership is something that is learned. No one is born a leader. We are all capable of exhibiting the leadership qualities mentioned above – some just not to choose. Of course, not everyone can be the “top dog”, let alone all the time. However, everyone does have the capacity to lead in some way – but action is required!

Understand that learning is a fact of life – learning to ride a bike, learning to swim, learning to drive, learning to type, learning mathematics, learning medicine, etc. All of these activities require action. While we are born with many different abilities, if we do not harness and develop them, those abilities will never come to fruition.

Youth is an excellent time to start developing leadership traits. Take the time to study each one in detail. Put them into practice as you interact with other people. Determine which areas you are weak in, striving to always improve. Observe the leaders, and how they handle situations and carry themselves. Also, study the lives of great leaders. The results will serve you in this life and beyond!

诚恳的学习态度

伊浚:

想要赢得别人的尊重与信任，并不是需要很強的能力，而是很诚恳的态度。即使你经验不足，甚至能力不够，只要诚实以告，并表现积极的企图，认真的学习，还是可以争取到属于自己的机会。人生是漫长的，赢在起跑点，并不代表你会达到最后的胜利。反之，就算在起跑点的奔跑步伐緩慢，只要秉持信念，加上后天的努力，想必成功是指日可待的。祝事想心成。

The Story for You

The pencil maker took the pencil aside, just before putting him into the box.

“There are five things you need to know,” he told the pencil, “Before I send you out into the world. Always remember them and never forget and you will become the best pencil you can be.”

“One: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in someone’s hand.”

“Two: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, but you’ll need it to become a better pencil.”

“Three: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make.”

“Four: The most important part of you will always be what’s inside.”

“And Five: On every surface you are used on, you must leave your mark. No matter what the condition, you must continue to write.”

The pencil understood and promised to remember and went into the box with purpose in its heart.

Now replacing the place of the pencil with you, ChrisLee. Always remember them and never forget and you will become the best person you can be.

One: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held by good professor.

Two: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, by going through various problems in life, but you’ll need it to become a stronger person.

Three: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make.

Four: The most important part of you will always be what’s on the inside.

And Five: On every surface you walk through, you must leave your mark. No matter what the situation, you must continue to do your duties.

Allow this story to encourage you to know that you are a special person and only you can fulfill the purpose to which you were born to accomplish.

Never allow yourself to get discouraged and think that your life is insignificant and can’t make a change.

Forgive for Good

To forgive may be divine, but no one ever said it was easy. When someone has deeply hurt you, such as your roommate at hostel or your classmate at RSMU, I believe it can be extremely difficult to let go of your grudge. But forgiveness is possible – and it can be surprisingly beneficial to your physical and mental health.

“People who forgive show less depression, anger and stress and more hopefulness”, says Frederic, Ph.D., author of Forgive for Good. “So it can help save on the wear and tear on our organs, reduce the wearing out of the immune system and allow people to peel more vital”.

So how do you start the healing? Try following these steps:

Clam Yourself

To defuse your anger, try a simple stress-management technique. “Take a couple of breaths and think of something that gives you pleasure: a beautiful scene in nature, someone you love”, Frederic says.

Don’t Wait For an Apology

“Many times the person who hurt you has no intention of apologizing”, Frederic says, “They may have wanted to hurt you or they just have different thinking way. So if you wait for people to apologize, you could be waiting an awfully long time”. Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation with the person who upset you or condoning of his or her action.

Take the Control Away From Your Offender

Mentally replaying your hurt gives power to the person who caused you pain. “Instead of focusing on your wounded feelings, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you”, Frederic says.

Try To See Things from the Other Person’s Perspective

If you empathize with that person, you may realize that he or she was acting out of ignorance, fear – even love. To gain perspective, you may write a blog to yourself from your offender’s point of view.

Recognize the Benefits of Forgiveness

Research has shown that people who forgive report more energy, better appetite and better sleep patterns.

Don’t Forget to Forgive Yourself

“For some people, forgiving themselves is the biggest challenge”, Frederic says. “But it call rob you of your sell-confidence if you don’t do it”.

You Can Helps Yourself

“Heaven helps those who help themselves” is the results of vast human experience. The spirit of self-help is the root of all genuine growth in the individual.

Even the best institutions can’t give a man active help. Perhaps the most they can do is, leave to develop himself and improve his individual condition. But in all times men have been prone to believe that their happiness and well-being were to be secured by institutions rather than by their own conduct.

Daily experience shows that it is energetic individualism which produces the most powerful effects upon the life and action is constitute the best practical education. Schools, colleges and university, give the merest beginnings of knowledge. Far more influential is the life-education daily given in our homes, in the streets, behind counters, in laboratory, at the hostel and the market, in hospital and in the busy crowd.

This is that finishing instruction as members of society, “the education of the human race”, consisting in action, conduct, self-culture, self-control, -- all that tends to discipline a man truly and fit him for the proper performance of the duties and future life.

In fine, human character is molded by a thousand subtle influences; by example and precept; by life and literature; by friends and neighbors; by the world we live in as well as by the spirits of our forefathers, whose legacy of good words and deeds we inherit. But though these influences, men must necessarily be the active agents of their own well-being and well-doing; however they themselves must be their own best helpers.

谦逊的心情,努力学习

伊俊:

在你宿舍対面的大湖中的小魚，可能是小池中的大鱼。大鱼，小魚，大湖，小池，其实都是比较出来的。站在学习的观奌，我们宁愿自己永远是大湖中的小魚，怀着谦逊的心情努力学习，站在志气的观奌，我们不妨做小池中的大鱼，抱着宏远的志向积极表现自己。这么一来，不论在大湖或小池中，都可以快活地优游自在了。祝学业进步

The Success Personality

Is there a “success personality” – some winning combination of qualities that leads almost inevitably to achievement? If so, exactly what is that secret success formula and can anyone develop it?

At the Gallop Organization we recently focused in depth on success, probing the attitudes of 1500 prominent people selected at random from Who’s Who in America. Our research finds out a number of qualities that occur regularly among top achievers. Here is one of the most important, that is common sense.

Common sense is the most prevailing quality possessed by our respondents. Seventy-nine percent award themselves a top score in this quality. And 61 percent say that common sense was very important in contributing to their success.

To most, common sense means the ability to present sound, practical judgments on everyday affairs. To do this, one has to sweep aside extra ideas and get right to the core of what matters. A Texas oil and gas businessman puts it this way: “The key ability for success is simplifying. In conducting of meeting and dealing with industry, reducing a complex problem to the simplest term is highly important”.

Is common sense a quality a person is born with or can you do something to increase it? The oil man’s answer is that common sense can definitely be developed. He attributes his to learning how to debate in school. Another way to increase your store of common sense is to observe it in others, learning from their – and your own – mistakes.

Besides common sense, there are many other factors that influence success: knowing your field, self-reliance, intelligence, the ability to get things done, leadership, creativity, relationships with others and of course, luck. But common sense stands out. If you develop these qualities, you’ll succeed. And you might even find yourself listen in Who’s Who someday.

Communicating A Sense Of Personal Power

Communicating a sense of personal power comes from a belief that you can reach your goals in your own way. Powerful people empower others and encourage others to express themselves openly. You communicate a sense of personal power by developing these traits:

Authority

Authority is inner confidence – a trust in your skills and abilities. It comes from the inside, from an attitude of “I can do that.” “I deserve success”. This attitude radiates outward as you assert your rights, honestly ask for what you want and need, and develop a willingness to give to others and yourself.

Assertiveness

Assertive behavior is active, direct and honest. It communicates an impression of self-respect and respect for others. By being assertive, we view our wants, needs and rights as equal with those of others. An assertive person wins by influencing, listening and negotiating so that other people choose to cooperate willingly.

Accessibility
The powerful person is a master net worker. Good network increases your visibility and gives you a valuable circle of people from whom you can give and receive support and information. Imagine yourself as the hub of a wheel surrounded by spokes of contacts.

Image
You communicate power through your image. Do you project an image consistent with strong leadership? Stand tall and walk proudly, remembering that you have value as a person. When you meet others, make direct contact and keep your handshake firm and friendly. Clearly state who you are and what you do.

Communication Habits
Take a deep breath to project a firm voice. Avoid slang, and jargon, and vocal hesitations that can hinder effective communication. Use only the body movements and gestures necessary to make your point, no more. Learn how to write clearly and succinctly.

严于律己，宽以待人

伊浚:

我们往往很容易原谅自己。比如说，你自己常在冬天的早上起不了床，睡懒觉。每一次鬧鈡一响，就很痛苦，就起不来。你如果今天很晚睡，或者是錯过了规定的时间起床，你马上就原谅自己，你想明天继续努力，就没事了。但是对别人卻很难生起这样的心，这个剛好也是和我们傳统文化相反，老祖宗告诉我们要”严于律己，宽以待人”。”以恕己之心恕人，以律人之心律己”。以饶恕，宽恕自己的心去宽恕别人，以要求别人的那种心来求自己，我们就不会苦了。以简单的道理与人相处，日子就会很好过。若太复杂，就会惹来满心烦恼。祝万事如意。

Life will be good, if we can keep a simple mind in the dealing with people; otherwise, we will be inflicted by an abundance of afflictions.

Built Your Self-confidence

Confidence is a feeling – an inner fire and an outer radiance, a basic satisfaction with what one is plus a reaching out to become more. Confidence is not something a few people are born with and others are not, for it is an acquired characteristic.

Confidence is the personal possession of no one; the person who has it learns it – and goes on learning. The most gifted individual on earth has to construct confidence in his gifts from the basis of faith and experience, like anybody else. The tools will differ from one person to the next, but the essential task is the same. Confidence and pose are available to us all according to our abilities and needs – not somebody else’s – provided we utilize our gifts and expand them.

One of the most rewarding aspects of confidence is that it sits gracefully on every age and level of life – on children, men, women, and the famous, the obscure, rich, poor, artist, executive, teenager, the very old. And you can take it with you into old age. There is nothing more inspiring than an old person who maintains his good will, humor and faith in himself, in others, in the future. Conversely, the root cause of old people’s despair is a feeling of not being wanted, of nothing to contribute, no more to conquer and become.

Most people have more to work with than they realize. One noted physicist calls this unused excellencies and finding and releasing this potential in ourselves is one of the major challenges of modern life. The great danger is not that we shall overreach our capacities but that we shall undervalue and under-employ them, thus blighting our great possibilities.

The goal of life is not a problem less existence, which would be unbearably dull, but a way to handle problems, creatively. That word “problem” may sound a little prickly, but it only means a question put forth for solution and actually life consists of a series of problem – and – solutions, each different from the last.

Confidence is delight – delight in living, in being who you are, in what you do, in growing, in the endless and sometimes exasperating adventure of what it means to be human. The teacher who delights in teaching has no time for bogging down in a swamp of doubt that he or she is doing it “right”, and they are well aware that they can become a better teacher tomorrow, but only by doing their best today and enjoying today. So, too, the mother who delights in being a mother does not worry overmuch about whether she fits the rules. She is not the mother, after all, of something material but of a living child.

Rules can often be a guide to successful living, but they are not a substitute for living. Rules never quite keep up with reality, because rules come from experience, not the other way around. Life happens and it is infinitely inventive. It will always outrun and outmaneuver any attempt to bottle it up in a cut – and – dried system, for life is perpetual becoming. When life turns your wisest plans or best rules upside down, throw out the plans and bend with the circumstance. You will find powers you did not suspect and possibilities undreamed of.

Confidence is not always winning, not always victory. Indeed, it is that very quality in humanity which refuses to stay defeated. A kind of stubborn cheerfulness. Remember there are two things you can do with mistakes, you can run away and you can grow.

有所觉, 有所为

亲爱的姨姨：

公公是个性内向，平时沉默寡，不多说话的人，好像都少与人打招呼。在家里说话的永远都是婆婆，公公始终都是倾听者：左邻右舍每家都和婆婆很熟，但姨姨们都遗传了婆婆那健谈的性格，当姐妹们相聚在一起有诉不尽的情谊。

然而；常在锦福主动逗公公他老人家时,看见公公开心，放声地大笑。原来，他是个不快乐的父亲，却是个快乐的公公。

真的，老人家如婆婆若不快乐，做子女是不能“一无所觉”、“一无所为”的。老人家沉默、孤僻、不快乐，并不是他们的天生个性，而是子女与晚辈们，没有让她感到快乐啊!

赶快“有所觉’有所为” 。趁婆婆还健在的时候我们都要多主动地制造一些让她老人家快乐的事。祝福大家身体健康。

You Will Be Master Of Your Emotions

The tides advance; the tides recede. Winter goes and summer comes. Summer wanes and the cold increases. The sun rises; the sun sets. The moon is full; the moon is black. The birds arrive; the birds depart. Flowers bloom; flowers fade. Seeds are sown; harvests are reaped. All nature is a circle of moods and you are a part of nature and so, like the tides, your moods will rise; your moods will fall.

It is one of nature’s tricks, little understood, that each day you awaken with moods that have changed from yesterday. Yesterday’s joy will become today’s sadness; yet today’s sadness will grow into tomorrow’s joy. Inside your heart is a wheel, constantly turning from sadness to joy, from exultation to depression, from happiness to melancholy, yet you will remember that as today’s dead flower carries the seed of tomorrow’s bloom, so does today’s sadness carry the seed of tomorrow’s joy.

And how will you master these emotions so that each day will be productive? If your mood is right, the day will be a failure. Trees and plants depend on the weather to flourish but you make your own weather, yea you transport it with you.

And how will you master your emotions so that every day is a happy day and a productive one? You will learn this secret of the ages: “Weak are he who permits his thoughts to control his action; strong is he who forces his actions to control his thoughts.” Each day, when you awaken, you will follow this plan of battle before you are captured by the forces of sadness, self-pity and failure –

If you fell depressed you can sing.
If you feel sad you can laugh.
If you feel ill you can double your exercise.
If you feel fear you can plunge ahead.
If you feel inferior you can wear new garments.
If you feel uncertain you can raise your voice.
If you feel poverty you can think of wealth to come.
If you feel incompetent you can remember past success.
If you feel insignificant you can remember your goals.

Henceforth, you will know that only those with inferior ability can always be at their best and you are not inferior. There will be days when you must constantly struggle against forces which would tear you down. Those such as despair and sadness are simple to recognize but there are others which approach with a smile and the hand of friendship and they can also destroy you. Against them, you must never relinquish control –

If you become overconfident you can recall your failures.
If you overindulge you can think of past hungers.
If you feel complacency you can remember your competition.
If you enjoy moments of greatness you can remember moments of shame.
If you feel all-powerful you can try to top the wind.
If you attain great wealth you can remember one unfed mouth.
If you become overly proud you can remember a moment of weakness.
If you feel your skill is unmatched you can look at the stars.

Henceforth you can recognize and identify the mystery of moods in all mankind and in yourself. From this moment you prepared to control whatever personality awakes in yourself each day. You will master you moods through positive action and when you master your moods you will control your destiny. You will become master of yourself. You will become a great man.

如何能幫到你？

伊浚:

我们常思考如何能真正幫到远在俄罗斯的你？想要真正幫到你，我们就要体会什么是真正的爱。爱是用心去感受，绝对不是控制和佔有，爱是站在对方的角度去思考。爱是无私无我的为对方付出，甚至无求的付出，那才是真爱。如果我们现在对你的目的是要你考一个好成绩给我们，那是交换，那是逼你走一條路，那不是真爱。我们感受到，一切都得回到原点，从头学起什么是爱，才能真正幫到你。同时你自已也须学习如何幫你自已。幫你自已就要懂得爱自己也懂得爱她人。祝心中有爱才会人见人爱。

Passivity

Just passively letting your life happen may make it more difficult to accept yourself. Part of accepting yourself is engaging in activities that help you like yourself. Think back to those times when you weren’t concerned about your acceptability. What kinds of things were you doing? How were you spending your time? To accept and like yourself means that you approve of how you are living your life. If you aren’t accepting yourself, you probably don’t like the activities you’re engaged in. You are feeling dissatisfied. A way to increase your self-acceptance is to become more actively engaged in your life. Look for those activities and relationships that give you the most enjoyment – not necessarily the most enjoyment you could possibly have, but the most you can get from your choices at the moment. Try new things, perhaps things you have always wanted to try but didn’t because you felt you couldn’t do them. Try them with the attitude that you want to know what it would actually be like to do them. You may find that they are enjoyable and that you want to continue them. You may find that they are okay, but not worth continuing. You may find that you don’t like them at all and feel fine about crossing them off your list of things to do. Trying and getting real experience is a way of feeling better about yourself and gaining more confidence in your abilities.

The Comparison Trap

Judging yourself by what others have accomplished is a sure way to lower your self-acceptance. Have you noticed that you never compare yourself to people who seem to aspire to less than you do and that you always chose those people who are the top performers or the most popular as your yardstick for success? Are you as good as your friends, your roommate, your brother or sister, your parents or Joe Blow? And how about trying to be like “normal” people are? (And who or what determines what is “normal”?) Can you only be good if you’re better than someone else? When we use other people as our yardstick, we aren’t taking into consideration our own personal limitations or talents. For example, if someone seems to be more articulate than you, you can respond in one of two ways: You can become upset and depressed by telling yourself that you should be as articulate as that person or you can recognize and accept the fact that there are probably a lot of people out there who are more articulate than you at certain times and under certain circumstances and that is okay. It doesn’t mean a thing about you. Playing the comparison game is a dead end street. By doing that you are probably missing some other qualities by which you can judge your own worth, like your honesty, friendliness, caring nature, dedication and so forth. And really, people don’t value you for how much you are like someone else. They do value you for the ways you are being you.

Not Accepting That There Are Real Limits To Your Abilities

The idea that you should always be able to attain your goals as long as you work hard enough is another factor interfering with self-acceptance. You will reach many of your goals and should give yourself credit for having done so. Some of us have trouble seeing our successes because we focus so much on our failures and many times the failures come after a lot of hard work and personal suffering. It seems that all that hard work should pay off in our having reaching the goal we set out to achieve. It is hard to accept that a given goal may be out of our reach and that may be because of many factors, including the fact that we may not have the talent or skill needed to reach the goal. Of course there may be other factors in operation that make the achieving of that goal at that time impossible such as living environment concerns, Russian language problems, far away from family, extraneous stressors or any number of other factors acting alone or together. The real trick to self-acceptance is to see that the goal is unattainable, at least for now and shifting your focus to accomplishing what you can accomplish under the circumstances. That could include evaluating your original goal and deciding whether or not to continue with it. It also means giving yourself credit for what you have accomplished and what you have learned from your experiences.

Impossibly High Standards

Having standards that are impossibly high is a third way you can not accept yourself. It may not come as a surprise to you that most of us are more demanding of ourselves than we are of others. Somehow we can tolerate the fact that other people fail, that they aren’t always kind, that they’ve done things they aren’t proud of, but we have difficulty accepting those very human aspects of ourselves. The need to be perfect is another way to set yourself up for failure and enhance the feeling that you are not acceptable. We all make mistakes. Accepting less than perfection simply means recognizing the limitations inherent in being born a human being. Learn to value who you are rather than who you could become. To quote Linus, a sober and often worried character from a popular comic strip, “The world’s heaviest burden is a great potential”. Wouldn’t it be overwhelming if we always had to do what we imagine we could do? Nobody has the time and energy to do all of that. We must make choices about what we will pursue and do them the best we can under the circumstance (which aren’t always ideal, by the way).

Over-generalizing

Another thing that might cause you not to accept yourself is over-generalizing about something you’ve done that you don’t like. So, for example, if you fail a colloquium you might generalize and say, “I’m really a stupid person.” When you do this you are making a statement about all of you all of the time and not just about this one situation at this time was indeed poor and then go on to decide what you want to do about your poor grade, if anything. Getting stuck in over-generalizing discourages you from taking steps that might allow you to do better on the next exam and builds an expectation of future failure.

Moralistic Self-judgment

One way to really dislike yourself is to always judge yourself in a very moralistic way. People often spend a lot of time and energy labeling their behavior with moral adjectives such as “bad”, “hateful” and “mean”. When you apply these kinds of words to yourself you make liking yourself much more difficult. There is a more productive way of looking at yourself that will allow you to begin to like yourself more. Instead of evaluating yourself in this moralistic way, begin to ask questions like: “Did I do what I really wanted to do in this situation?” “How can I correct the misunderstanding that occurred?” In other words, you can start to view what you’ve done as productive or non-productive rather than as good or bad. If something is non-productive, you can focus on what you have learned form it and try another approach that might be more productive.

Learn To Accept Yourself

We are not born doubting ourselves. We learn to do it. In fact, we are usually taught to doubt ourselves. Often we are taught to do so by otherwise well-meaning people who are passing along their own doubts and uncertainties and who believe they are being protective and caring. What these people (usually parents and other significant adults) want are strong, capable and self-confident people, but they often inadvertently teach us thought processes that lead to something else. That’s the bad news. The good news is that we can understand some of these processes and learn new ways of coping that allow us to become more accepting of ourselves. Following are six behaviors you may have learned that can be unlearned and allow you to move toward greater self-acceptance. (will be continue)

考试顺利

伊浚:

每当你考试顺利的同时，我们在千里之外也感受到你的兴奋心情，分享你的喜悦。但是同様的，如果考试不及格，我们也会替你憂心。成功和失败並不代表好事和坏事，真正的好坏，在于我们如何去面対每次的成功，以及每次的失败。如果某项考试及格了，你当下傲慢，得意洋洋，得罪他人，这件成功的事情，己经是下一次失败的预兆，但是如果这次考试失败了，你也无须自責或归罪于人，而是因此奮发向上，总结经验，那在这次考试失败过程当中，已经在奠定下一次成功的基础了。祝考试顺利。

How Imagery, Positive Thinking and Suggestion Help Self-confidence

Imagery is useful in building self-confidence, but only if properly applied.

Imagery should be used to imagine achievement of a goal that is being worked towards in order to help you to believe that that goal is attainable.

It should only be used, however, where you are rationally aware that you have the raw ability to achieve a goal if you stretch yourself, but if psychological factors such as lack of emotional self-confidence are interfering with your ability to achieve. For many years psychologists have advocated use of imagery, positive thinking and suggestion without stressing that it should be based on a rational assessment of abilities. This can easily lead to overconfidence and serious failure.

How Goal Setting Helps Self-confidence

Goal setting is probably the most effective way of building self-confidence. By setting measurable goals, achieving them, setting new goals, achieving them and so on you prove your ability to yourself. You are able to prove to yourself that you are able to perform and achieve effectively. You can see and recognize and enjoy your achievement and feel real self-worth in that achievement.

Importantly, by knowing what you are able to achieve, you are not setting yourself up for surprise failure. You almost always have a reasonably accurate assessment of what your abilities really are.

Levels Of Confidence

The way in which you are self-confident is important: if you are under confident, then you will not take risks that need to be taken. If you are over-confidence, then you can end up not trying hard enough and losing.

Confidence should be based on observed reality. It should be based on the achievement of performance goals: you should be confident that you will perform up to your current abilities. Good self-confidence comes from a realistic expectation of success based on well practiced physical skills, a good knowledge of the sport, and respect for your own competence, adequate preparation and good physical condition. The success attained should be measured in terms of achievement of personal performance goals, not achievement goals such as winning.

Where you are under confident, you will commonly suffer from fear of failure, self-doubt, lack of concentration and negative thinking. Often you many find yourself blaming yourself for faults that lie elsewhere. These will damage your flow and disrupt your enjoyment of sport. Here you should use suggestion, visualization and effective goal-setting to improve your self-confidence and self-image.

Overconfidence is dangerous – it can lead you into situations which you do not have the ability to get out of. It can set you up for serious failure that can devastate the self-confidence you should have. Overconfidence is confidence that is not based on ability: it may be a result of misleading or pushy parents or coaches trying to help you without understanding your abilities, may be caused by vanity or ego, or may be caused by positive thinking or imagery which is not backed up by ability.

The Important of Self-confidence

Self-confidence is arguably one of the most important things you can have. Self-confidence reflects your assessment of your own self-worth. It will play a large part in determining your happiness through life.

Sport can be both enormously effective in improving self-worth and highly destructive in damaging it. Where sport is used creatively, with emphasis on enjoyment, effective goal setting and monitoring of achievement of goals, it can build self-confidence as targets are reached and improvement in performance is noted.

Where children are compelled to participate in a sport for which they have no aptitude, this can be immensely destructive to self-confidence as failure and lack of self-prepared to take moral responsibility for inflicting this damage.

Self-confidence allows you to take risks, as you have enough confidence in your own abilities to be sure that if things do go wrong, you can put things right.

苟日新，日日新

伊浚:

古人讲” 苟日新，日日新，又日新” 。你每天都可以提升自己，每天都是新的。因为” 新” 不在一个表面，而是時時反观自己的内心有没有提升？你的进退你自己知道，所以进退只在一念之间，不在于你的分数。你只有一个目标，就是今天的你，有没有比昨天的你进步？有，你就是进步。因为每个人的狀况会不一样，那我们跟别人比沒有任何的意义，每个人都是第一。你的进退就在你自己的心境上。不论你的成绩如何，在我们的心目中，你永远都是第一，因为你是我们的孩子。祝天天进步。

Don’t Fear Failure

Many career expert believe failure as the castor oil of success. The idea isn’t to fling yourself into certain disaster in order to be mystically rewarded with triumph. Rather, it’s a simple recognition that people who willingly risk failure and learn from loss have the best chance of succeeding at whatever they try.

You’ve had minor reverses in school or love, but you haven’t failed meaningfully. Never fear, everyone get chances. No one lives a failure life forever.

Failure is easy to recognize. It usually involves loss of money, self-esteem or status. At least, it is simply not getting what you want such as the Anatomy examination’s result you get recently.

Not that rational people should wish for calamity, but a stiff dose of misfortune is often a painfully effective tutor. It teaches you something about your strength and acquaints you with your limitations. That’s an important part of maturity.

People who profit from loss are the kind of foot soldiers business leaders seek. Continuous success builds arrogance and complacency. Unsuccessful people in stinctively avoid risks even when a smart gamble might pay off. You learn a great deal more from what doesn’t work than from what does. Failure is merely the cost of seeking new challenge.

If the thought of fouling up paralyzes you, here are several helpful suggestions:

1. Stop using the “Failure” word.
High achievers, rarely refer to “failure”, a loaded word suggesting a personal dead end. They prefer “glitch”, “bollix” or “course correction”.

2. Don’t take it personally.
When things go sour, don’t label yourself a loser. The language you use to describe yourself can become a powerful reality.

3. Be prepared.
Help insulate yourself by mapping a catastrophe plan. Opportunity is for who are be prepared. Keep in mind that the Chinese Ideogram for “crisis” consists of the characters for both “danger” and “opportunity”.

4. Learn to fail intelligently.
You must learn to reload and get ready to start again.

5. Never give up.
You can’t afford to get arrogant about success, so you must always trying to improve yourself by reading and study.

请把握”当下”

伊浚:

请把握”当下”，那就是把握自己现有的真实，好好努力学习和生活，这能使人无妄，无贪，更能令人提起积极自发的精神。这和打牌的道理是一样，不管手上握的是好牌，是坏牌，就是要把它打到淋漓尽致。你不能羡慕别人有好牌，不能抱怨手中的牌不好，要专心去发挥它。人生也是如此，不如意事十有八九，问题在于努力去运用的条件，才能创新的條件。祝事事顺利。

You Can Do It

Figure it out for yourself, my lad. You’ve got all that the great have had: two arms, two legs, two hands, two eyes and a brain to use if you’d be wise. With this equipment they all began, so start for the top and say “I can”.

Look them over the wise and the great. They take their food from a common plate. With similar knives and forks they use; with similar laces they tie their shoes. The world considers them brave and smart, but you know – you’ve got all they had, when they made their start.

You can triumph and come to skill; you can be great if you only will. You’re well equipped for the fight you choose you have arms and legs and brains to use. And people who have risen, great deeds to do started their lives with no more than you.

You are the handicap you must face. You are the one who must choose your place. You must say where you want to go and how much you’ll study the truth to know. God has equipped you for life; he lets you decide what you want to be.

The courage must come from the soul within; you must furnish the will to win. So figure it out for yourself, my lad; you were born with all the great have had; with your equipment they all began. Get hold of yourself and say “I can”.

圣彼得堡

伊俊:
从你带回来的明信片中，我发现俄罗斯的圣彼得堡和莫斯科市，有很多的教堂，外观设计如同马来西亚的回教堂; 教堂顶端有一个个矗立的园顶，然而园顶上却都有一个个十字架。俄罗斯的历史文化背景，造就了教堂融合了回教堂与基督教堂的设计特色，宗教和设计的园融和谐并存，让人感觉到平静和感动。这样的教堂设计仿佛无所不在。更震撼人心的是教堂内部壁画，从天花板到每一根柱子上，都完好的保存十七世纪留下来的画作，宗教和艺术伴隨历史嵌入现在和未来。从高尚的莫斯科圣彼得堡花园的博物馆和艺术馆，到莫斯科街头艺术，俄罗斯人的艺术创创意变化无穷，展现了多姿多采的精神创作。若有课馀时间，你别忘了到圣彼得堡去參观，解解在他乡求学的那种惆怅。祝2010年快乐。

Goals, Attitude & Belief to Yourself Make Success

I have always wondered about the secrets of successful people. What do they have that lifts them above the ordinary? How do they achieve the superhuman feats that elevate them above others? All of great men and women have found some common denominators among them all.

The first common denominator is a solid goal. Successful people know what they want and willing to do everything necessary to get it. They set big, hairy, audacious goals and believe in them so deeply that their lives naturally begin to gravitate toward those goals.

Second, successful people maintain a positive attitude. They believe in their goals and aspirations despite setbacks.

Third, successful people believe in themselves and a higher power. Success seems to favor those who have a healthy self-esteem.

I believe success is the progressive achievement of career, personal and family goals. A solid goal, a positive attitude and a strong belief would lead anybody who desires success along that path.

年年如意，幸福快乐

伊浚:
祝你年年如意，幸福快乐。什么是幸福？中国人的幸福是心与心的交流，那是时时感念别人对我们的关怀和爱護，以及时时自己去关爱周围的人。这幸福哪里是吃到一歺团园饭，欲望暂时的满足能夠比拟的？我们在这样的过程当中，愈来愈感受到幸福与我们的心境有关，与我们的思想观念有关。我们每天有没有去感受过，周围的人对我们点点滴滴的付出？我们每天在每个细节当中，有没有感受到幸福？在我们每天成长，每天读书工作，人生一步一步走向成年的过程当中，有没有累积我们自己的德行？我们回報了多少关心我们的人？。每天都有多少人在关怀我们，我们要懂得用心去感受。祝万事如意。
Wishing you and your love ones have a very happy, blessed Chinese New Year.

The Man And The Opportunity

Dear Yi Jun,

The lack of opportunity is ever the excuse of a weak, vacillating mind. Opportunities! Every life is full of them.

Every lesson in school, college or university is an opportunity. Every colloquium or examination is a chance in life. Every business transaction is an opportunity – an opportunity to be polite, an opportunity to be manly, an opportunity to be honest, an opportunity to make friends. Every proof of confidence in you is a great opportunity.

Every responsibility thrust upon your strength and your honor is priceless. Existence is the privilege of effort and when that privilege is met like a man, opportunities to succeed along the line of your aptitude will come faster than you can use them.

Don’t wait for your opportunity. Make it, make it as Napoleon made his in a hundred “impossible” situations. Make it, as all leaders of men, in war and in peace, have made their chances of success. Make it, as every man must, who would accomplish anything worth the effort. Gold opportunities are nothing to laziness, but industry makes the commonest chances golden.

勤打扫，常整理

伊浚:

请在宿舍里常常保持有条不紊的生活环境，这样除了可以让自已看起来神清气爽之外，也可以提高生活的品质及学习效率。很多人误以为美好的环境，来自精巧的裝潢，其实最簡单而有效的方法，就是勤打扫，常整理。这个道理不只能够应用在居家坏境，用在打理自已的服裝仪容，也一样有效，要常保持整齐瑞庄。所谓 ”敬人者，人恒敬之，爱人者，人恆恒爱之”。当你懂得尊重自已，别人才会尊重你。为什么在不笑的城市中的俄罗斯男女仿佛是从服装店橱窗跃出来的模特兒，长相那么精致？因为俄罗斯人都很重视他们的仪表。祝安康。

Be empathic, be considerate of others and they will be touched and think of us instead.

不笑的城市

伊浚:
俄罗斯的历史和文化艺术紧紧的拴在一起，前身是共产国家，解体后的俄罗斯人其实仍保持拘谨的态度，生活水准的高消费，导致一般平民仍面对生活和经济压力，因此笑容鲜少会出现在面容。那里的人说，在共产的拘谨，也让他们感觉到如果一个人总是在笑，会让人感觉那是” 不严肃，轻浮” 的人。甚至于”麥当劳”歺廳的招待员也不具笑容。因为他们认为对别人笑是一种羞辱，所以请切记在上课时要专心听课，不要交头接耳，更不要朝向讲师笑，从免引起不必要的误会，记得常保特严肃与端庄的学习态度。然而，令人感动的是在那不笑的城市，忠于艺术创作者即使穷生活，也不愿意穷艺术。祝学习快乐。

学好俄语

伊浚:

学好俄语，可以帮助你很顺利地进入异国的生活与文化，和当地的人打成一片並互相尊重。但俄语毕竞是沟通的工具而已，并不是深入对方灵魂唯一的方法。举个反例吧，很多同文又同种的人，在一起生活了几十年，也不见得能够真正了解对方。那么，打破思想藩篱的真正要诀是什么呢？其实，再简单不过了，只是一颗体贴的心。你必须要愿意抛弃自我的成见，设身处地为对方着想，才能亲近对方的灵魂。希望有待一日，你能把俄语学好，助你一臂之力求知。祝聖诞节快乐。

把愤怒化成力量

伊浚:
我们常都痛恨社会不公平，教授不合理，但是，当我们发现不公平时，不该只是愤怒，痛恨，而是应垓充实自己的力量，努力的把不公平变得公平。把愤怒化成力量。生气不但会引起胃肠中的血液流量减少，食欲变差，严重时会引起胃溃疡。同时也会阻碍免疫细胞的运作，降低身体抵抗力。如果你能改変你的信念，不再执着于那些“应该如何”，”不应该如何”的事，你的情绪很快就会有大大的改善，学习的更加愉快。所以，不要遇到不顺与歹不平，就一味的想要求别人改变，环境改变，有没有想过，当你的心念改变，你看到的人生風景，也会因为时转弯而完全不一样。祝考试顺利。